Book Three is the final book of The Swingers trilogy. The reader will be pleased to know that the adventures of the first two books will continue into this book. Book three covers not just the sex in the swinging lifestyle, but the friendships as well. I have already addressed some of the misperceptions of the swinging lifestyle. Most on the outside view it as all about sex. Those who want to enter it mostly take this view as well. By now the reader has probably learned that to call the Lifestyle just a sexual experience is like calling Woodstock a concert some guy held on a farm in New York. It hardly describes the phenomena.
The friendships you develop are perhaps the biggest surprise. Despite the fact that swingers are looking for no strings attached sex, one can't help to discover that the birds of a feather flock together axiom applies especially so in the Lifestyle. As I pointed out in the Chemistry 101 chapter those inclined to like the Lifestyle have many similar traits. Consequently, it should be no surprise that friendships would so naturally develop because of these similarities. I am careful who I choose as a good friend. I went through the first 20 years of my adult life with a relatively tight circle of friends. A circle I did not think would expand that greatly later in life. I was wrong. I had not anticipated the Lifestyle and how easily friendships evolved. And why not? Think about it. You are performing an intimate act with other people. Talk about break down those initial barriers in a hurry? It is the ultimate icebreaker to get to know other people. Other people who have a great deal in common with you.
The friendships become so dominate that you prefer to vacation with Lifestyle people because of the freedom and lack of restrictions. We once had four couples in a condo with three bedrooms and one and a half baths. It worked out like a charm. Why? Because Lifestyle people are not bothered by seeing each other naked. As a result sharing bathrooms like married couples and dressing in front of others is routine. The friendships reach a point that every time you get together does not mean sex is going to be involved. We have good friends with whom we go to various functions who we have not had sex with in over a year. We attend each other's children's weddings, funerals of family members and family barbeques. It is about more than sex. Much more. Billy Joel was right. It is better to laugh with the sinners then cry with the saints. The sinners are much more fun.
The final book also addresses the question many swingers ask themselves. "When is it time to quit?" "When are we too old for this game?" In the final chapter Swinging on the Senior Tour I address this topic. It also gives the reader (and perhaps the author) an introspective look into the lifestyle and some of the lessons learned from all of those experiences.
This book wraps up the trilogy, but hopefully not our adventures. Read on and enjoy.
--Dax St. James