Every good girl I have ever known wishes somewhere in her heart that she could be just a little bit bad. She wishes she could turn a few heads with the way she walks, raise a few eyebrows with the way she talks, raise a man's temperature when she enters the room, and leave him breathless when she exits.

But that isn't how most of us were raised. If you are like most of the women I know, and I'm guessing that you are, you were probably raised to do the right things and to say the right things. To be respectful. And kind. And decent. And modest. To be, first and foremost, always a "lady." In short, to be a Good Girl.

The place you needed to be the epitome of "good" -- the most careful and ladylike of all -- was the place where it was most dangerous to be the least bit "bad": behind closed doors in the arms of a man. Why? Because making love should be something lovely and special and soft and gentle and quiet and private and very, very feminine -- something to be shared in a discreet and loving way in the quiet evening hours with the one you love. This was the picture society painted for most of us, and to bring that idealized picture to life, you had to be good.

Did Good Girls have sex? Of course they did. Good Girls could even enjoy sex, as long as they didn't enjoy it too much. But Good Girls didn't crave sex. And Good Girls didn't breathe sex. Good Girls certainly didn't exude sex and Good Girls didn't live sex. All of that was for the Bad Girls.

Oh, those Bad Girls. You know them well. For years you have listened to their stories and watched them turn heads. How did they get to be so sexy? How did they get to be so hot? How did they get to be so free? How did they get to be so bad? And what does that feel like? If you're like me, you have asked yourself these questions. My goal is to help you find the answers -- answers you can live with and love with.

My name is Barbara Keesling, and I am a sex therapist in private practice in Southern California. I have been a sex therapist for over ten years. Before receiving my doctorate I worked for many years as a professional surrogate partner -- someone who assists a sex therapist in a clinical setting to help the therapist's patients work through sexual obstacles. Clearly, I have spent a great deal of time in the pursuit of sexual understanding, but don't let that fool you into thinking that I was "born to be bad." Like most women, I have struggled to find my sexual power. For many years I was just like you: a really Good Girl who wanted to be bad. I had to learn everything that you will need to learn, and I think that makes me a uniquely qualified guide. Today I am a very different woman than I was back then -- I am, as they say, "as bad as I wanna be." I hope that my personal story, along with the many other stories I will be sharing in this book, will give you support and some genuine inspiration.

If you have been a Good Girl all of your life, it may not be all that easy to suddenly be "bad." You have it in you -- every woman has that special something in her -- that, I'm sure of. It may take a little time to find it and it may take a little practice to learn how to use it, but you're going to find it. You are going to feel it. You are going to learn how to use it really soon. It doesn't take long once you start looking for it and you can start looking right now by just turning the page.

If you have picked up this book you are ready for a change, and you need that change right now! You need to be sexy. You need to be wicked. You need to be lustful. You need to be wild; so wild you could scream. Bottom line: You need to be bad. You need to be bad so that sex can feel good. So it can feel fabulous. Mind-blowing. Hot as Hades. You owe this to yourself -- and it's time you got what you deserve.

The Good Girl's Guide to Bad Girl Sex is written just for you. It doesn't matter if you're twenty-five or fifty-five. It doesn't matter if you're married or single. It doesn't matter if you're in love or in lust. All that matters is that you want it bad. I know what your fears are and I know your concerns, but I also know that you need to be bad. Life is too short to waste it being good. It's time for you to learn to enjoy what all the Bad Girls know.