Childfree and Loving It! [Secure eReader]
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eBook by Nicki Defago
eBook Category: Family/Relationships/Family/Relationships
eBook Description: Childfree and Loving It! is a broad and definitive exploration of non-parenthood, challenging the myths of parenthood and boldly proclaiming the joys of a childfree life. 'The responsibility of parenthood is overwhelming and incredibly stressful. And it's for life. Don't give up a pleasant life for a life of unpaid drudgery. Your standard of living drastically declines, and the kids take off as soon as they can, without a backward glance.'--Shirley Conran
eBook Publisher: Vision Paperbacks/Vision Paperbacks
Fictionwise Release Date: October 2006
It?s fine not to want children, there are so many alternatives these days and nobody should have to justify, explain or apologise
for their absence. Good reasons for not having children are plentiful. Most people make the decision because they prefer the quality of lifestyle. Some are sufficiently enlightened
to realise that not everyone will make a good parent and the world doesn't need more human lives. Whatever one?s personal reasons, life without children can be as rewarding and fulfilling as life with children. In fact, the potential is enhanced because one?s own room for growth is freed from the demands that young children, especially, bring with them. Having a baby is a true vocation for some people and it?s wonderful when that?s the case, but it?s not and never has been the making of everyone. Parenthood is now a choice, though talking about it in such terms is only just becoming acceptable in a society still steeped in the values of the now outdated ?traditional family?. When I got married to my husband Jim we didn't know if we wanted children. Hearing only favourable endorsements from everyone around made me suspicious, so I embarked on my own research ? in my nearest Borders bookshop. The first thing I noticed was attitudes. When I asked at the counter, ?Have you got any books about women who don't want children?? the assistant looked taken aback. I felt rather embarrassed, as if I'd enquired after something inappropriate. After a puzzled exchange (?What do you ? mean??), she waved me in the direction of ?Feminism?, then ?Self-help?. There was nothing in either section, but ultimately
I found for myself a couple of titles under ?Pregnancy and Childcare?. The irony wasn't lost, but in fact that was the best place for what I was looking for. Being uncertain about motherhood needn't automatically class you as a feminist, and it?s a label many people feel uncomfortable with. Nor did I have a problem, just a decision to make, so the ?Skip Your Way to a Happier You? books weren't relevant either. First and foremost I was an average person considering life?s options and my focus at the time was pregnancy and childcare ? albeit with the subtext ?is it a good idea or not?? In the UK, it?s estimated that about a quarter of women in their thirties today won't have children by the time they're 45. It may be circumstantial ? for fertility reasons or not meeting a suitable partner ? but an estimated one in five women will actively decide that she doesn't want to become a mother. Australian figures are about the same and in New Zealand couples without children are expected to become the most common family type within the next few years. Ten per cent of the American population is childfree by choice and a recent survey showed seven per cent of Canadian women and eight per cent of Canadian men aged 20 to 34 have no intention
of having children. The rise of adult-only families in Japan is significantly changing the country?s cultural land-scape.1 After China, where the decision is enforced, Spain has the lowest birth rate in the world and the childfree notion is even impacting on family-orientated cultures like Greece.2 Sixty years ago in the UK about one in 11 women was childless
at the age of 45, but there was no research into whether any made a conscious decision not to reproduce.3 It was simply assumed that a married woman in possession of a good husband must be in want of a baby ? a sentiment that hasn't changed over the...